The Sin of Mocking a Name: Cisgender Leaders, Get with the Times

Rabbi Nikki DeBlosi (she/her)
7 min readMay 26, 2024
Sharpie markers and blank “hello my name is” stickers on a wooden desktop
Photo by Jon Tyson on Unsplash

When I was little, I was selective about whom I allowed to call me “Nikki.” My Dad called me “Nick”; younger relatives who could not pronounce my name occasionally called me “Coley”; when I was in trouble it was the dreaded “Nicole Lyn!”; my sisters and my best friend called me “Nikki.” At school, though? It was Nicole, thank you very much. Formal, armored. Nikki was for when I…

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Rabbi Nikki DeBlosi (she/her)

queer belonging. sex positivity. creative ritual. inclusive judaism.